Showing posts with label Abby Tucker. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Abby Tucker. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

I'm a teacher, not a caterer.

Sometimes I have so much to say or share that I end up not saying anything because I'm not sure where to start. So, here's what I'll offer today. It's about my teaching.

I don't cater to students, though I do always try to be in service to students.

When I look out at the classroom, I see the folks who have in some way connected to my classes, whether it's the storytelling, the alignment focus, the homey vibe, the other students in the community. I see the students who are specifically connected to what I have to offer.

I don't try to win over a potential student by changing my teaching to suit them or by adding things that feel inauthentic to me.  You want it hotter? I can point you in the direction of 30 classes at this exact same time that will give you that. Want me to spend less time on philosophy, meditation, and pranayama so you can do more "vinyasas?" I'm not your gal. Don't want to learn about alignment? Again, there are plenty of classes out there for you, but I will not let you hurt yourself on my watch.

One of the many problems of the yoga industry is that many people are confused and think that yoga teachers are in the "service industry" and that the customer is always right. We aren't and they aren't.  Creating the problem is that yoga instructors often feel they have to cater to students because we get paid by the student (in general), which means if I cater to you, you might like me, and come back and then I'll make enough money from you on that day to buy a kombucha and if I cater to enough people, I might even be able to pay my rent.  When teachers pander to students, the students then don't see yoga as an education process and the teacher as, well, a teacher.  So, they then expect to have their expectations of what they want in a class met by any class they attend. 

The way I see it, there are more than enough yoga classes in the world that will meet the wants and needs of those who want it hotter, faster, less spiritual, whatever. Way more of those than there is of me.  Those are the students who have a hard time finding what they want.  If people come to my class, it's because there's something in it they didn't find elsewhere. If I cater to potential students, I actually am disrespecting the students who are coming for what it is that I uniquely add to the mix.  We've created a community together over 13 years. I no longer am the sole magnet for my classes, my students magnetize the students.

So, if you stumble into my class, I am going to welcome you wholeheartedly. I am going to be excited that my community may have discovered a new friend. I'll introduce you to the folks on the mat near you. I am going to give my utmost and best to serve you, to teach you and to offer something that may be valuable not only on your mat, but in your life.  And also, if I'm not the right fit for you, ask me and I will tell you where and with who you might find the right fit...

but I will not cater to you.

Monday, September 15, 2014

Circular Living and How I Came to Follow the Wheel of the Year

Where we are in time and space: Today we’ve hit the mid-way point of September, a month that, to me, is all about settling back into the rhythm of our lives after the long-march of the summer scatter.  I’m starting to feel my feet more on the ground and my mind more focused than it’s been since Summer hit in earnest 3 months ago.  In the Northern Hemisphere, the balance of our year will tip towards darkness in just over a week, and yet we still have the amazing autumn months that seem to be everyone’s favorites no matter where you live.  There’s a pull inward, and yet there is still so much warmth and beautiful light, we stay out just a little longer, as if we are children who’ve already been called in for dinner once and can’t seem to stop while there is still even a hint of light.
About 10 years ago, an odd series of thoughts led me to a book that was all the rage when I was growing up, but I was too young then to read it or appreciate it.  The book (which over time became a series of books) was called Foxfire, and it was born of a quarterly magazine created by a group of high school students and their teacher in Georgia in 1966.  It was an exercise in gathering the oral history of their elders as old ways of life were quickly fading.  Foxfire celebrated the home life, seasonal living, and storytelling traditions of Appalachia.
My Mammaw and Papaw around 1970.
I grew up in a university city in the foothills of the Great Smoky Mountains, near the Appalachian range, which runs from Newfoundland to Alabama, though we primarily think of their expression in Kentucky, Virginia, Tennessee, North Carolina, West Virginia,  and Georgia.  The mountains there are soft and rolling, and the seasons—at least during my upbringing, though I fear with human-induced climate change that has likely changed—were distinct and clear cut.
My great grandparents on my father’s side were mountain farmers who lived and farmed in the Cumberland Mountains in the southeastern section of the Appalachian chain.  I remember as a very young child driving what seemed an incredible distance every so often to visit their farm.  I remember they had an outhouse, which was thrilling to a pre-schooler.  My great grandfather wore “overhauls” and my great grandmother wore calico printed dresses with a full apron, work boots, and a bonnet on top.  It was like Little House on the Prairie!  Mammaw wore her long hair, which was gray with auburn streaks, braided and in a neat bun.  The farmed tobacco, grew their own food, and kept bees. I remember, in particular, how they spoke in what I later learned was old English.  Appalachia and the southern mountain ranges were really the last part of the country to have television in the household. They were cloistered and with no outer influence via network television, they spoke as their ancestors had.  They said “thee,” “thy,” thou,” “ye,” and “yon.”
When I discovered Foxfire, it was like discovering my great grandparents and their way of life—an incredible gift.  I learned about the tradition of planting by the moon, and, in fact, using the moon for all manner of things from planting above ground crops (waxing moon) to below ground crops (waning) to cutting your hair for more growth while the moon waxed and for less growth while it waned.  I was fascinated and started paying more attention to the cycles of the moon and the seasons than I had before.  Perhaps, because I had moved to Northern California, which natives will tell you has seasons, which of course is true, they are just  . . . subtle . . . I had a yearning for a seasonal rhythm that I had not even realized I was deeply connected to until I moved to the Golden State.  Paying attention felt right in my cells, and I knew that it was more than just me,  but all of us who must be yearning for something known that had been lost.
In 2008, during an October trip to New Mexico, I made a conscious decision to begin living my life more based on the earth wisdom and natural cycles that my ancestors (all of our ancestors!) had moved with.  Trust me, I’m not someone who is interested in turning back the clock to some silly idea that long-ago and far-away was better.  (We may be battling superbugs that have adapted to antibiotics, but, really, it’s just silly to think that we were better off without them, and if you aren’t sure about that, you wouldn’t have to go far back in your own family’s history to find the child that died from something ridiculous to us now.)  So, what is it to follow the Old Ways in 21st century California?
When I say “the Old Ways,” I’m talking about realizing that our lives have rhythms and cycles.  They ebb and flow.  There are outward periods and inward periods.  There are times more conducive to growing and more conducive to releasing and everything in between.  Time is a circle, not a line.  Problem is, our modern life doesn’t acknowledge it whatsoever.  We can have daylight at any time of day, 72 degree heat in winter and 68 degree air conditioning in summer. We can eat tomatoes from California or Mexico all year round, and even my beloved autumn persimmons can be procured from the Southern Hemisphere in the spring if I so desire.
We’ve lost our connection to nature—our own nature and the nature around us.
The good news is: it’s actually a pretty easy fix—start paying attention.  Watch the moon. Feel the subtle shift of the season before it’s outwardly obvious because you are spending time outside every single day. Yes—eat local and in season, and if you live in Maine where local and in season looks different than in California, maybe consider learning to “put up” the bounty of the summer.  Use the dark half of the year to do projects that are more inward. Honestly, it’s not that hard. We are wired for this. We just forgot.
I had forgotten, and I’m still learning..  And, what I’m finding since embarking on this path 10 years ago casually, 6 years ago actively, and late this spring formally—it is such a rich way of engaging in the world. At first, to be honest, so much feels impossible, counter-intuitive, because at this point, we’ve grown up outside of this rhythm.  But, you see, your DNA is old and wise. It knows the Old Ways.  I’m not a farmer, nor much of a gardener, but I follow the cycles across the wheel of the year in the rhythms of my life and day.  Some projects are better suited to June than January.  And when nature speeds up or slows down, and I’m attuned to that, I actually live and work at optimal amounts of ease and effort. I more readily delight and adapt to change.
Following the cycles of nature and her seasons is something we should all be able to agree upon regardless of religion or political persuasion, and the fact that we can’t, is the very proof of how far off we’ve gotten.  We may have screwed a lot up. That’s a fact. But, I really do believe that a lot more than we realize could actually be solved by paying attention to our own nature and to nature itself, because they are one and the same. My by-the-moon planting great-grandparents were down-home, red-state, backwoods Christians.  Your Jewish grandparents were (and are) following the moon for Rosh Hashanna,  Sukkot, and Passover.  Stepping into this flow doesn’t need a label, though there are words people use to describe themselves or others who do it.  If you need a label for this, here’s a suggestion: call it being a Human Being.
            I’m a human who is finding her human-ness reflected in the seasons.
            I’m a woman finding her womanliness reflected in the moon.

Monday, August 15, 2011

A Little Time Travel on Anusara's Birthday

August 15, 2005



"Congratulations, Abby! You are a fully Certified Anusara Yoga Teacher!" said Anusara Founder John Friend.  "I really love what you wrote for your Grand Finale exam question. You're a part of the grand vision of this method. You have a voice in it, and you can help manifest it."

and in that one phone call, I became Anusara Certified Teacher #146.  Years of practice, years of training, years of teaching, and now . . . the future. Manifesting the grand vision: Day 1.
August 15, 2011

Today is Anusara's 14th Birthday!  Part of my personal celebration was to go back and read that Vision I had during my Certification  process. Here's what I wrote in the winter of 2005. I have to say, it's all unfolding just the way I envisioned it.

Grand Finale Question: What is your dream and vision for Anusara Yoga? How do you intend to help make that dream manifest?

"I was blessed last summer [August 15, 2004] to be on retreat with John Friend at Inner Harmony on the 7th birthday of Anusara Yoga.  I have often contemplated my vision of Anusara, as well as my role within the Anusara community since then.

I envision Anusara as a dynamnic, ever-changing, yet centered organization and community. This vision will mean that there will be times when it draws in and then expands back out again. I dream that as members of the community, we will not allow ourselves to become attached to any particular moment or form that Anusara embodies, and that we will remain open-hearted and open-minded to the flow of Anusara while being ever-aware and rooted in the philosophy and foundational tenets of the practice. My role in this vision is to be vigilant in remaining fresh, studied and curious, as well as to continue to ask myself if I am serving at my highest capacity. By keeping my view, my authentic language, my practice, and my service percolating and expanding, it will remain as dynamic and changing as the organization itself. Allowing spanda, not only withing myself, but within an entire organization takes courage and softenss.

I dream that as Anusara continues to grow, holding strong to its core, we as Anusara teachers and students will actively seek the Teacher Within and to rise to new heights. I see a unifed organization that is built around integrity and a desire to serve each other.  I dream that from our practices, we will grow an inner strength that teaches us to be less demanding of John Friend and senior teachers.  I can help this manifest by continually deepening my own practice.  It is within our own expereince that we become who we are and rise up to offer our unique role within the growing Anusara community.

Finally I envision that Anusara will bcome more than a hatha yoga style.  I see Anusara as a spiritual culture and lifestyle.  Anusara philosophy transforms lives by completely changing how life is viewed.  Today, we are pioneers in a new era as yoga has come West.  Anusara will play a key role by making a broad-based tantric vision of ourselves, the world, and the Divine accessibile to people in all walks of life, from all cultrues and backgrounds.  People will raise their children with a belief in the intrinsic goodness of life in all its manifestations.  People will run their businesses based on Anusara's Universal Principles of Alignment. I can make this vision manifest by living in a life-affirming way that does not deny the beliefs, religions, or choices of those around me. I can share my spiritual life in a way that is non-thretening and non-judgemental. I can "first, see the beauty" in all situations.  As we live our lives in this way, it grows exponentially, because it is all inclusive, life affirming, and a rich experience of life of this earth."